Me and You and a Dog Named Boo – The debut single by Lobo… Though perhaps I'm reading too much into it?
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What are some of the most famous love triangles, real or fictional?
Category: Q & A
Questions, and Answers, from the man himself
Deano’s answer to: “What are some good ways to settle scores and articulate a break-up in clear and final terms?”
The best way is simply to separate the two.
You don't need a "good argument" for why you'd like to break up. Relationships are an at-will agreement in all 50 States plus Guam(*) – you can be fired at any time, for any reason. So, don't bother to explain it in any great detail.
Of course, it's a little weird to simply walk out on someone, especially after several months or years of a relationship. But just like firing an employee, it's best to keep things minimal and neutral – to use such clichéd terms like "it just isn't working out", or "we're moving in different directions".
It's not dishonest, it's simply avoiding a fight that benefits no one, and potentially extends your involvement in a weird limbo-state in which you're convinced you're broken up, and the other party is still hanging on for dear life, or perhaps trying to scrape off a pound of flesh on the way out the door.
Honestly, the question itself suggests a desire for confrontation, to "get the story out"… But to what end? If one needs to vent frustration with a failed relationship, that's better done with a support network of friends who will remain with you, take your side, or even (if they really like you) even challenge some of your assumptions.
It's also incredibly zero-sum… A breakup needn't be the result of a failed relationship. You can end on a draw, or a mutual "win". And if you can do that, why wouldn't you? It just makes you look even better to potential future candidates.
When things run their natural course, and it's time for them to come to an end, go out classy.
(* I'm joking about Guam. I have no idea what their policy is.)
What are some good ways to settle scores and articulate a break-up in clear and final terms?
Deano’s answer to: “In which U.S. city are Indian American men found most attractive by non-Indian American women?”
There is, to my knowledge, no known single place that fits this description, though two major "themes" apply:
- Areas in which such men are relatively scarce, and remain exotic compared to the bulk of local men. For larger cities, places like Minneapolis, Chicago, Boston still seem to fit this bill fairly well, though not as dramatically as even a decade ago.
- Places in which darker skin tone and hair are more common, allowing Indian American men to "blend in" better. Good examples would be Miami, San Diego, really anywhere known for its beaches/tanning.
For those of lighter skin tone, or who already "pass" for, or are confused with, another ethnicity (Italian, Mexican, Greek, etc) can also go to cities in which such men do well/are popular with women.
In which U.S. city are Indian American men found most attractive by non-Indian American women?
Deano’s answer to: “What is the oldest age a child should be allowed into a locker room with their parent of the opposite sex?”
This question is covered pretty well in the more general Parenting: At what age should a child no longer share a room with someone of the opposite sex?, but for convenience, I will summarize my answer here:
Whenever the child is uncomfortable/awkward with the arrangement, and/or endangered by others.
If a 12 year old girl doesn't mind changing clothes in a locker room full of guys, that's absolutely fine, though it certainly indicates a potentially underdeveloped desire for independence if it holds much longer than that.
Technically, there really isn't anything the law can do about it until the child is 18 in most US states. The pool staff, however, might start enforcing their own rules on the matter well before then, especially if the other men in the locker room start complaining directly (my gym seem to draw the line basically at puberty, but as far as I know these aren't guidelines that appear in any official manual).
Deano’s answer to: “What is the ideal age to start having children?”
I'm pretty sure the best age to start having children is 0, also known as the moment of conception.
This way, you don't have the retraining/deprogramming problems you get when you start out with an older child.
It's like dogs – you think getting them after their already housetrained is a good thing, but you wind up spending a lot more time just creating a strong parent-puppy bond than you otherwise would have, and you'll still need to learn how to parent "in situ", without the advantages of starting to do so with a youngling that cannot just run away.
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