Category: Q & A

Hrm… Good question!
(Probably not the Virgin America website… Photo Courtesy of http://www.fotopedia.com/items/f…)

Overall, probably the best would be Scarleteen, which has pretty open, sex-positive, and "sex novice" focused content… Aimed primarily at minors, the knowledge is applicable to anyone (though the community elements are not friendly to stalkery adults, obviously):

http://www.scarleteen.com/

For more "street knowledge" type education, few things could be better than simply reading a month's worth of craigslist casual encounter ads: http://craigslist.org/cas

I hate linking to Mashable, but Geoff Livingston had some interesting thoughts on the matter in an article last year: http://mashable.com/2010/03/12/s…

What is the best online resource for sex education?

This is a great "Mad Libs" type question, but the answer would be the same even if you were asking "Are Elephants likely to have more sex partners than Ghosts?"

Simply put, number of sex partners is determined by the following:

• Demand for sex
• Supply of compatible partners

While demand for sex can, at times, seem pretty universal, it isn't always so. There are people who don't appreciate sex, or who are intentionally abstaining for a variety of reasons.

Supply, on the other hand, is affected greatly by location and social contexts. Thus, it's impossible to universally generalize about gay men and lesbians in this way, without providing some additional context and/or a locale.

If you asked something like "Between male and female homosexual residents of San Francisco, which is more likely to have (or have had in the past) more sex partners?", we could start to draw on social data sources, anecdotal experiences, subcultural preferences, and general social tolerances specific to the bay area/SF itself that could help make such a determination. And those results might vary widely from similar groups in Austin, Miami, Chicago or Vancouver.

Simply put, it's impossible to judge based on the question as worded.

Are gay men more likely to have more sex partners than lesbians?

As John Morrow and Andy Lemke point out in the question comment section, there's a bit of a seeming paradox at play. Specifically, John says:

This is kind of like asking how you prevent being thirsty if you refuse to drink anything…

Which got me to thinking… If I didn't want to be thirsty, and I refused to drink liquids… I could set myself up an IV drip and stay hydrated that way.

There is a similar analogue to address sexual urges – you can medicate them away. This is pretty inadvisable stuff generally speaking, but for some, including repeat sex offenders, it's the only way to manage through the problem, at least until stability is achieved, and other parts of life are going well.

Take, for example, this Brazilian woman – she was so compulsively horny, that she got a selection of prescriptions from her doctor just to be able to get her jilling sessions down from 45 to 18 per day, allowing her to keep her job (at least, after a subsequent lawsuit that supported her right to masturbate in the office).

Perhaps the hypothetical single woman could simply find a combination of pills/patches/therapies which would dull certain senses, or suppress certain hormones enough to get by until finding a proper long term relationship… Which reminds me, sometimes birth control pills can have an "evening out" effect – either generally increasing or decreasing libido. Since the single female mentioned seemed disinterested in casual sex, it's not a far leap to think she may not be regularly taking birth control pills – and if not, that's certainly a great, fairly safe, and otherwise-useful[*] thing to try as a first step.

Anyway, as with any significant physiological issue that is disrupting one's routine, the best first step is to see an experienced physician, and get educated on options for testing, diagnosis and treatment.

[* Especially if she changes her mind on the casual sex thing suddenly…]

If a single woman doesn't want to masturbate or have casual sex, how does she relieve herself of her horniness?

You could generalize this question as "Is it better to pick from a large selection of unknown quantities, or from a smaller (or even singular) set of semi-known quantities?"

And the answer would still be "It Depends".

No doubt, women tend to have selection priority in dating throughout the Western World. But that also means they tend to have a bigger filtering issue based on their own wants from dating… Men tend to rate looks as more important in surveys, so if women are less concerned with appearance, it becomes much harder to know who would be the preferred date among a pool of men, without starting to, you know, actually date them.

Simply put, men seem to have more trouble getting dates, and women struggle with finding the right date. Which is the preferable predicament is going to be a matter of personal preference, based on one's inherent and developed levels of patience and persistence.

Is it true that women are better off in the dating marketplace because they have their pick of men?

The reason or excuse is irrelevant. You either choose to believe her, or not.

The result should also provide you with clear direction on advisable next steps in your relationship… If you cannot believe/accept her when it matters, then it's time for a new girlfriend, or a new you. Or, perhaps both?

Should I believe my girlfriend when she tells me that she doesn't want to have sex (even with a condom) because she's worried about getting pregnant?