Disclaimer – I am not a lesbian*, but according to the fictionalized sex and sexuality education series “South Park”, this answers your question:
Drawing more from my own education, I’d say the question is flawed beyond hope of a serious answer. There is no “most commonly used” position among gay, straight, bisexual, transgendered, lesbian, genderqueer, group, or other sexual participants. Anyone who says otherwise is lazy and needs to pony up for a Liberator™ if they aren’t going to hit the gym enough to manage pp. 201-223 (excl. 219) of the Kama Sutra unassisted.
Part of what makes sexual expression and connection so special, is that one person’s “meat and potatoes” maneuver can be another’s “dreamgasm”… And it’s finding what works (and what doesn’t) between the 2 (or 200) of you that winds up being the most fun. Want to be a better lover? Let people know what you want in bed, and encourage them to share the same without fear of judgment.
Now, having said all this, for those budding lesbians who encounter a dearth of education on “tactical pleasuring” in their current educational and social circles, there are the following excellent resources to catch up on some great methods for getting down:
- Lesbian Sex: 101 Lovemaking Positions http://www.amazon.com/Lesbian-Se…
- The Whole Lesbian Sex Book http://www.amazon.com/Whole-Lesb…
- The Best Lesbian Erotica 2010 http://www.amazon.com/Best-Lesbi… – especially good for those who are inspired more through narrative than reference.
In a pinch, I’d be shocked if episodes of “The ‘L’ Word” weren’t available via iTunes/Amazon Video/Netflix, etc.
Best of luck figuring out your own answers!
* For some reason, actually typing it out brings on a brief moment of wistfulness in me, every time. Go figure.
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