Author: Deano

Women, men, or polar bears… People want what they want. But when they actually get what they want? Wow, that feels good!

You could probably make the argument that the harder something is to get, the better that "wow" feeling becomes.

Thus, in a society that has historically shunned public expressions of homosexual sensual expression, seeing two women of otherwise-perceived heterosexual orientation kiss can seem especially exotic and thrilling to the average heterosexual male.

Why do some men like to watch women kissing?

The "average" penis? No idea!

How long does it take for the average penis to go from completely flaccid to completely erect, given the optimal sexual stimulus?

I believe this answer changes based on length:

• For the "shorter" penis (under 5"), additional length is what would be preferred;
• For an average length rod (5-6"), length or girth additions would be appreciated about equally (averaged across all 'penis desirers');
• For the longer phallus (7"+), it is more common for additional girth to be generally preferable once "hitting the back wall" becomes a realistic possibility when "parking in the flesh garage".

There are theories that this 'bell curve' of preference may have a secondary prominence for wangers above 11" in length: where physical limits cease to be a primary concern, the preference may revert to length (trying to beat local recorded maximums) before again turning back to girth (for the same reasons) somewhere in the 13-14" range.

Please note that the above is a relative scale, primarily based on what one is "used to" or "readily able to acquire".

The definition of what constitutes a "big" man-cannon, as well, is based on similar relativity… Though, as an average, a man should feel no qualms in considering themselves "well endowed" if they meet one or more of the following qualifications:

• cannot fit their engorged wiener fully into a US standard-sized toilet paper roll tube.
• can invert a standard "Guiness-style" pint beer glass over their unit when erect, and "touch bottom" with the tip.
• using a tape measure, measure either 7" in length, or 7" in schlongile circumference when fully aroused.

As a side note, it is important for baloney-pony enfatuated women especially to understand the "grower versus shower" principle of dong size – there are a shocking number of women who have either never heard of the difference, or who have never experienced a "grower" in their own personal experience or casual pornographic film viewing, and thus make mistaken assumptions about potential pleasuring power of men who are simply under- or non-hornified at the time of viewing. This does not seem to apply as strictly to gay or bisexual men, who generally have some experience in sidelong-glancing the at-rest cockadoodle noodles of their fellows.

What is preferable in penis size, girth or length?

No.

Marriage does not confer immediate and total rights to knowing everything about one's spouse. This is, in fact, a great criteria for knowing whether or not to get married – if you have no idea whether your beloved has a personal stash of sex toys, and you're too afraid to ask, you're not ready to get married.

This issue cuts both ways – if you're a man with a dildo or vibrator collection, your wife certainly has no "right" to know about it… Though, again, best practice says that if finding out about it on her own would upset either of you, or if additional distancing/walls need to be set up to prevent them finding out about it, then it's a bad sign for the future of your relationship.

Another key element is to look within, and think about the "what if" scenario. Would finding out that your wife used a vibrator when you're not around threaten you? Would it turn you on? Would you be disinterested, or curious? Knowing the answer, and then being able to share it as a hypothetical, can start to open up some of these deeper conversations – a lot of the time, it's a relief to everyone involved once it's out in the open, and it expands the potential options for cooperative play, while reducing any anxiety/shame of solo enjoyment.

Long story short – don't ask us on Quora – ask your wife, and be open to the answer, and to sharing your feelings about it openly and honestly, regardless of the outcome.

Should a husband have a right to know if his wife owns and uses a dildo or vibrator?

Colin Dowling's answer is promising as far as it goes, though it's certainly not a universal truth… Often, the $500 escort is the most dangerous in terms of discretion – paid enough to know the client must have the money to burn, but not necessarily enough to forget said client's address/name/etc. Speaking with off-duty escorts, it is not uncommon to hear the occasional namedrop/hint of a celeb encounter.

But it's definitely true that looks would not be a primary differentiator. Rather, based on the numbers listed, I would venture the following differentiation:

• At $50, an escort is likely walking the street, and the session will take place in a car, should a suitably private parking spot be located. Such an encounter is relatively high risk in terms of health, hygiene, and law enforcement implications. On the "pro" side, prostitution hobbyists who enjoy "cruising the strolls" enjoy the thrill of the chase, of identifying a working girl, successfully negotiating terms, and completing the encounter without a robbery, injury, or arrest taking place. Attractiveness, mode of dress, age, etc will vary widely with each encounter, and unless numbers are exchanged at the first meeting, it is unlikely a john will see the same girl twice. Both client and escort are typically on "high alert", just plain "high", or both.
• At $500, an escort is more likely visiting a client's hotel room or home, or hosting from similar. Escorts vary widely in appearance, though they tend to be of very good hygiene, and above-average fitness and general health for their body type. Sessions will be much longer than a car date, typically 1-2 hours at this price point, with a "generous, non-clock-watching" hour being fairly common – at $500, escorts are less likely to be stacking appointments back to back unless they are on tour outside their home city. Skill in conversation, massage, and other pre-play activities will still be inconsistent here – some escorts will be very intimate and deeply engage/roleplay with clients, while others are basically working off the visual and "endgame acrobatics". Law enforcement risks are much lower, since the activities happen "behind closed doors", and typically do not affect the surrounding community in a visceral/meaningful way. At $500, escorts also are typically well known and reviewed/vouched for by the hobbyist community across sites like http://myredbook.com, http://www.theeroticreview.com/, or http://eros.com.
• At $5000, an escort is likely to be in peak physical condition, and represent the epitome of conventional beauty standards. Sessions can be anywhere, but are likely multi-hour or overnight/weekend getaway affairs (travel and accomodation costs are, of course, not included). Escorts tend to be older (without looking it), wiser, and able to hold up a solid conversation with just about any type of client, from the most awkward nervous silicon valley java developer at a newly-acquired startup, to the Type-A amateur sommelier CEO of the acquiring Fortune 50 megacorp. Law enforcement involvement is extremely rare without severe cases of abuse/drug or human trafficking, etc – these workers are pulling in enough to pay lots of taxes, and even be valued members of their community. Such escorts will both have impressive rolodexes of regulars, and behave with the utmost discretion, as they themselves will have a great deal to lose. The big exception here are "managed" escorts – agency fees can be just as high, but with so many additional people involved (management, security, drivers, etc), fewer assumptions should be made about the quality of the experience or the level of secrecy provided (as numerous congressional and celebrity "outings" have shown – these incidents are almost always agency-based unless the client is caught "red handed" somehow).

With some apologies for the late (early) hour for my wording (I tried to keep it fairly neutral), I will also say that the above "vaguely" maps across escort and client genders and orientations – though the non-heteronormative prostitution market is much less established/economically stable/researched to date.

What's the difference between a $50, $500 and $5000 a session escort?