Author: Deano

The most important thing when looking for a date/mate is to be open to the idea that you have no real idea for whom you are looking.

Rather, have a great idea about who you are, and what you want in life. This will act as a great selection and filtering tool, within both your business and pleasure circles.

After you know what you want, then all you need to do is nail down is asking for it properly. Get both of those right, and you will not lack for dates – and one of them may seem to naturally persist in extremely nice ways over time.

Granted, determining even one of the above, let alone all of them, is often much more difficult than posting a well-crafted and well-meaning ad on plentyoffish or craigslist.

If, however, you want to start making matches that are predictably satisfying/interesting/attractive to you, it's best to work solely on your own needs (within reason), and then pursue a relationship within that context. Nothing else will cut the pool down as effectively or efficiently without leaving you with a lot of potential duds or "settlers" on the list.

For potential dates/mates, is it better to have a. a lot of selection criteria; b. a lot of filter criteria; or c. a few important criteria?

Define love in this context… It may be that you feel no romantic/sexual love for one another… And this could be temporary, especially if your child is newly-minted. Alternately, it could be that you've simply grown apart, but still care for each other AND your child enough to continue forward assuming the alternatives to be worse.

But there are many, many alternatives. Amicable (or not) separation. Divorce. Various forms of non-monogamy (who said you had to get all the love in your life from one person?). Whatever you choose, it should be both a conscious choice, and one made together as much as possible.

Which means, before you do anything else, you should talk things over, and see what you both want as individuals, in your relationship(s), and for your child. Then throw out all your ingrained assumptions and traditional rules, and just figure out the best working solution for everyone immediately involved, and stick to it.

Also, you might try volunteering with the elderly for a bit. It's amazing how easy it is to assume that people stayed married in the past out of love – and how different the reality was, and oddly how much more mature and open-minded compared to the atmosphere today…

If you are married with a kid, but you and your wife do not love each other, what should you do? 

Try kissing boys?

What should a 25-year-old man do if he's never kissed a girl?

The easiest way to hoop is the simple waist hooping motion: 

1. stand in the middle of the hoop
2. place the inside of the hoop against the small of your back
3. place your dominant foot about a step ahead of your other foot, comfortably apart, no more than shoulder-length
4. lean forward a bit, then push the hoop into a spin with your dominant hand forward (for right-handers, this will cause a counter-clockwise motion)
5. gently rock back and forth between your two legs – NOT moving your hips/waist in a circle, but simply forward and back.
6. The goal is to push back against the inside edge of the hoop as your weight is on your rear leg, and forward into it as your weight hits the front leg.

It can take a while to get used to, but the main key is to focus on that front-back rocking motion, and synchronizing with the hoop's rotation.

If you run into trouble, you may want to google "hoopdance", or perform a Youtube search on "hula hoop for beginners", for access to many straightforward video demonstrations like this one:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o…

Good luck and good hooping!

How do you hula hoop?

Theoretically? Impossible! In reality? Not all that hard.
The image above depicts the Glamour Magazine-sponsored "High Heels Race", an annual event in Moscow Russia that is also spreading to other countries like Finland and the Netherlands.

The photos still look pretty awkward, perhaps, so you might want to check out the video of one of the events: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f…

They're running pretty darn flat-out, with a minimum requirement of 3.5" heels on[*].

Quorra's heels don't look quite that high – and being wedges, they are probably much less fragile/dangerous than stilettos.

Thus, I would say that there's plenty of evidence that, with practice, Olivia Wilde could run quite easily in high heels – though the boots from her Tron: Legacy costume would be more challenging than regular daily-wear fashion stilts.

As Eunji Choi points out in her answer, if you're considering an actual run in the "real world", stilettos are probably your best bet all around, with stiletto boots leading the pack… One caveat – Quorra's wedge-style heels are going to have much greater potential ground-touch surface area, which will mean easier stopping once you're a skilled heel-runner. Also, the more heel there is on the boot, the harder it will be to accidentally break off (and when you do, broken boots will be the least of your problems).

[* Glamour ran a similar race in NYC, but the minimum heel was 2.75", hardly sporting! ]

How difficult would it be for Olivia Wilde (the actress who plays Quorra) to run around in her high heel boots?