Category: Q & A

It depends entirely on how much much you want the third not to be the same gender, and statistical likely outcome will map inversely to said desire at nearly 1:1.

My advice:

• If you already have two boys, buy 3 years worth of boys clothing in advance. If it's another boy, you've saved a lot of trouble. If it's a girl, no one will care – women are pretty universally allowed to wear whatever they like. It's also less likely anyone will be confused and ask – they'll see the signs of extreme triandritis etched into your face.
• If you already have two girls, it's not going to matter – they'll constantly dress up their smaller sibling like a little princess regardless of your intentions to nurture or subvert traditional gender norms.

If I have two kids of the same gender, what is the probability that my third kid will be the same gender?

The simple answer is that it's a jurisdictional issue. Where you reside in marriage will determine the "ground rules" for any divorce proceeding. It's likely that any prenup such as you describe would be fairly easy to invalidate in California, for example.

It may also be that the place in which you are married may influence the outcome – this is much rarer, but especially for marriages that take place internationally, the validity of the marriage itself may be called into question, which could then affect the validity of the prenuptial agreement (if the nuptials are not recognized, the contract may be invalid, and common law could then be applied).

For what it's worth, I think you may benefit more from using a "Relationship LLC" model[*] for your 'marriage'. This would mean, effectively, that you would be "business partners" in your relationship, and subject to customized agreements that are made between the partners – rather than being subject to all the various aspects of existing marriage laws (which again, vary significantly based on where you live).

As an example, you could draw up an agreement that provided "shares" to each participant, that vested over time – if your fiancée wants half your assets, she would have to stick with the relationship for a specified period. This would also enable you to have a "buy out" clause – you could simply pay for her vested shares based on the length of the relationship and current value of mutual holdings. Alternately, you could even keep all your "incoming assets" separate, and only share those things that are truly shared – things like cars, houses, investments, etc that happen during or as a key component to the relationship. That way, even if you do a 50/50 split, it's only splitting those things that were actually shared between you, and not all prior and ongoing income/assets/etc.

It's not really simple (neither is regular marriage law), but it seems almost ideal for a situation in which you are pre-planning your divorce before being married.

And while I won't pass judgment, I will definitely advise extreme caution in proceeding either way. Even really "ironclad" contracts are dependent on the good faith of all involved parties to some degree… If you cannot trust your fiancée, then it may be that you will eventually lose everything, regardless of how much pre-planning you do.

Good luck!

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Is a prenuptial agreement possible for anyone?

That's easy: cobra and mongoose.

What interracial pairing is least likely?

Send yourself on a trip to a distant country. One involving some form of tour/trek in which you are not in control of the schedule. The combination of being forced awake to meet itinerary deadlines, plus seeing and interacting with a different culture or cultures, possibly sleeping in a new bed each night, should help "shake loose" the rut you're in.

When you return, give some serious consideration to similar "coached" wake-ups in some other way – agreeing to carpool with folks who go to work earlier than you, joining a gym bootcamp, dating someone who is only free during the mornings, etc. Sometimes, you simply have to incentivize a new process until it has time to become the default/habitual response.

Simpler/cheaper things to try around the house: a rotation of alarm clocks, sleeping in different beds/couches/orientations each night, going to the gym right after dinner and really wearing yourself out, then going to bed immediately after getting home, no snacks/dessert/etc…

You may also want to look into sleep disorders with your doctor, or with Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) methods, which help you more easily set a course, and track progress in ways that don't create "catastrophic failure backsliding" (CFB, aka Deano's Disease).

I wake up at noon. How do I wake up at 8am every day?

Short answer: yes.

Longer, somewhat more meaningful explanation: It's incredibly unlikely that what fits into your throat in terms of ice would be wide enough not to melt away enough for later passage… But what if that ice cube is also very long(*)? And what if your throat's internal temperature had already been lowered (let's say you're eating a bunch of ice cubes, outside, in the artic, as your sole means of hydration. In that case, yes, it is certainly possible that you could choke to death from an ice cube… But given all the other mitigating factors at work, I'm not sure I'd credit the cube itself with slaying you.

(* We usually call just about any squared-off three dimensional ice form a "cube", even if all sides are not of equal length)

Is it possible to choke to death after swallowing an ice cube?