Deano’s answer to: “I got a hot date Fri night! Dinner or drinks? I’ve heard you can do one but not both. Drinks seems more fun. Thoughts?”

Your answers are likely to be bounded greatly by personal preferences when asking so specfically – for me, drinks at the bar in a nice upscale restaurant would be ideal, since:

  • We could stick to drinks-only without ruffling anyone's feathers, and stay as long as we liked, or
  • We could (in most cases) order appetizers, or even entrées off the menu to share, as a way to test the cuisine, without breaking the bank on a full course

Still, what you do on the date pales in importance to how you do it

Make sure to present her with multiple invitations:

  • To try something new (drink, appetizer, word game, whatever)
  • Share her thoughts, opinions, background information (try to listen more than talk, good for her ego, as well as getting a feel for what she might like/hate in a second date)
  • To relax and enjoy herself without expectations or even intentions beyond having a wonderful time with you

Above all, remember that in many ways that the first date is a lot like a first job interview, or the first investor pitch – the goal is simply to get another interview/meeting/date, not to achieve any of the more "traditional milestones" (first kiss, makeout, sex, etc).

I got a hot date Fri night! Dinner or drinks? I've heard you can do one but not both. Drinks seems more fun. Thoughts?

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