Category: Q & A

It's always a trap, for one of you:

• either she's trapped into a mode of thinking about you, herself, and your shared relationship that is based on some objective sense of "perfection that can be achieved"…
• Or you are trapped by the idea that you need to answer stupid questions earnestly just because you care about the person asking you.

That said, here are three equally stupid answers that would set you free in most cases:

• "I'd make you a wealthy billionaire heiress, so that you could always have your hearts' desire, and whenever your hoity-toity friends asked what you were doing with a chump like me, you could simply curl your beautiful lips into a smile and know the secret they've yet to figure out – that there are some things that money will never be able to buy, like our love for each other."
• "I'd give you Chewbacca's head, Darth Vader's arms, Luke Skywalker's body, and C-3P0's legs."*
• "I'd change the route you took to lunch the day before we met, so that we could catch each others' glance as we passed on the street, and I could spend the night dreaming of the day we'd meet again – totally unaware it would be the very next day."

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* Then, when her head stopped shooting flames and spinning around, add, "Chewbacca's head so that no matter how incoherent you think you are, everyone would always understand what you're saying; Darth Vader's arms, so you could choke a bitch without touching her; Luke Skywalker's body so you'd know in your heart you were meant for something special; and C-3P0's legs, because you'd have to paint them gold to make them any more scintillating."

When a girl asks what you would change about her if you could change something, how often is it a trap?

If your phone buzzes every time she sends one, then yes, it's time to worry.

Should I be worried that my girlfriend texts her ex-boyfriend till 4AM?

I haven't seen much evidence of a culture of such women who hang out with each other… I think the overall dating pool may still be too small (even here in San Francisco) to allow for conscious collaboration among "Alpha Females". Which may explain why some PUA "tactics" do seem to be popular – any advantage gained can make a huge difference in dating the "10s", or going home alone. 

Not to over-generalize, but in my second-hand experience, PUA techniques and thought processes work much more effectively for lesbian women who are pursuing multiple relationships, rather than those who want to increase their confidence in pursuing a single mate. Which, again, reduces the size of the possible community significantly.

I'd say it's more likely that various bits of PUA wisdom will float wholesale down to the masses across all genders/sexualities before more robust communities form within individual groups. Alternately, it's also possible that some subset of the Het Male PUA community will combine/incorporate those of other genders/orientations before a separat community can form. I could definitely see that happening in more remote communities, or within other cultures across the globe, where sexuality isn't as much of a primary social divider as other factors.

Is there a lesbian version of pick-up artist culture?

As many as can handle him, that he in turn can handle. Multiple relationships are usually not a matter of nobility, but access, intention, and attention. 

Maintaining all three over multiple relationships of the same type and energy level can be exceedingly difficult, even disregarding social/cultural mores on the subject.

Put another way, if the "noble man" in question cannot be a 100% participant in a single relationship, then adding more is generally a terrible idea.

How many women should a nobleman have?

It can be a very enjoyable production, with totally acceptable, if not outstanding food. 

One thing I did not see mentioned in earlier answers is the length of the show: in order to prep, cook, and serve so many courses to a fairly large audience, and allow them time to eat everything, the show itself takes quite a while. 

I have previously enjoyed several Cirque du Soleil shows in Vegas, with dinner before/after at a nearby restaurant. This was about the same overall length (3+ hours) of time, without the refreshing change of venue/chance to stretch the legs. 

I noticed towards the end that several in my party were seriously flagging – a full meal with a couple alcoholic drinks, plus the visual overload really did them in. So, from that perspective, I'd say it's a great cuddly-comfort-building date for a semi-established couple – Valentine's Day springs to mind… But probably not an ideal first date (the show is not so engaging that you can avoid talking with your date if things aren't going well). 

That the other answers seem to mention "company parties" makes a lot of sense – single venue is highly desirable, and Teatro basically runs the whole show, so there wouldn't be much planning involved. Along similar lines, the tables closest to the center always seem to be filled with birthdays and anniversaries… So perhaps the optimal attendees are groups, where the organizers don't have the skill/time/energy to plan out an alternative.

Is Teatro ZinZanni (San Francisco) a good place for a twentysomething date?