Month: July 2011

Men prefer to make out with people they are romantically interested in, exclusively… Given that that tends to be a pretty limited subgroup of their acquaintances, this means it likely isn't a constant, on-demand phenomenon for most men, so make-outs tend to be appreciated on their own merits when they happen organically.

That said, men also tend to like sex, and are far less discriminatory about who they'd share that experience with.

Where the waters muddy a bit, is that men will also happily do just about anything to take the promise of sex to its sweatiest, most fall-asleep-before-you-get-yours conclusion possible, including making out with someone they may not otherwise have a romantic interest in.

In summary:

Men like to just make out sometimes, AND they will almost always make out if doing so leads to sex.

Do men like to make out or do they make out just to get sex?

Avoid pastrami.

What should I keep in mind when involving foods in sexual endeavors?

The best lovers, why that'd have to be Geological engineers!

• No qualms about digging into dirty holes.
• They know better than to mess around with miners.
• They will rock your world like no other.
• They won't be as judgmental if you want to get stoned afterwards.
• Avid Spelunkers. 'Nuff said.
• They will exhaustively map your topography with respect and care.
• And lastly, they're the only engineers who can ask "am I boring you?" in a way that turns you on even more.

Which kind of engineers make the best lovers?

If you're sure he's gay, you might just lay it all out and ask for advice.

Otherwise, suggest a perfectly normal platonic activity you both might enjoy.

The trick is, honestly, to just be there to enjoy yourself, and make friends who may be suitable for other things as well… Don't try to "make up for lost time", or "catch up on being gay"… Just start opening the real you up a bit more until you're fully comfortable in your new "out" skin, and make a habit of meeting people, inviting them out, and just letting your new life happen. 

After a while, some natural patterns/best practices for dealing with crushes may emerge, but for now just try not to get trapped too much by goals and expectations, they have a bad habit of putting a weird tinge on relationships of all kinds.

As a newly "out" gay guy, how do I tell another guy that I have a crush on him, without sounding creepy or pathetic?

Can't pull the band-aid off much slower than this… Tell me, does it really feel any better?

Not being able to honestly communicate with your fiancée sets an extremely bad precedent for any potential marriage. To cave because her tears shows you both to be extremely selfish people –

• her for the manipulation itself (intentional or subconscious),
• and you for not wanting to be the cause of her hurt

Good relationships aren't formed on avoiding hurt feelings, but rather on making the inevitable hurt feelings more than worth it, and using them to help you grow stronger together.

If you really want to get through this process with minimal pain and anguish, you'll need to:

• Withstand her tears, and know that the pain she feels is something within her, not caused by you.
• Use Nonviolent Communication techniques, or even simple E-Prime language to best describe your own feelings, and ask her to respect them.
• Make sure it's what you really want, then get it done as quickly and respectfully as possible.

The sooner the two of you have split, the sooner you can both move on with your lives. Get. It. Done.

Also, as an aside, consider this – if you think the nature of your work could influence any personal relationship directly, you probably need a little more time for personal introspection, and/or much more practice in effectively communicating your desires in life with any potential future partner.

What is the best way to break up with my fiancee?